Counterpart

Seeing Chris's post at Ordinary Gweilo about Why is the platypus? made me wonder, who would my counterpart be?

I don't think I have one. Not just online, but anywhere.

Perhaps I should just 'give up' on the whole idea of having a ying to my yang, a star to my moon or a bread to my butter.
I'd like to think that someday there will be someone in my life who thinks I am special enough not to treat me like shit. But there is a fine line between keeping an eye out, sending out available vibes and looking desperate.

I've done the whole, "don't even think about dating, they will soon be flocking in" thing, that just does not work, especially in Hong Kong. I've also done the "be more proactive" (that one actually came from my GP!) that involved a LOT of first dates, most of which were fun but not likely to lead on to anything more.

So now I'm toying with the idea of starting a family, on my own. Well not quite on my own I'd need a bit of 'input' from a male. But bringing up a child on my own. Giving up on the whole 'find a man who loves me and wants to be with me' angle. Children are not the be all and end all for me, if I were in a relationship with a man who either had children from a previous relationship or didn't want children at all it wouldn't be a deal breaker. Well not a definite one anyway. But I quite like children. And I think I'd quite like to be a mummy.

On Sunday I had a great day out with friends on a junk, there was a friend of mine who had brought his 4 year old daughter along with out his wife, the daughter had never met me before but obviously as Dad introduced us and we chilled out on the top deck of the junk together she began to feel comfortable in my presence, so much that she followed me around for the rest of the day, insisting that I she sit with me at lunch and when I went for a quiet walk along the beach she asked if she could hold my hand and skip along with me. It was all quite lovely.

And then one of the other guests on the junk caught up with me and told me "what a beautiful daughter you have, you all make such a lovely family, are you planning on having any more like her?"

*gulp* Um no, I was just borrowing her for the day. And on the way home when she was all snuggled up on my lap to keep warm it felt just right. Well, it felt just right until I handed her over to her Mum at Queens Pier on our return.