Who are you?

I've had some interesting relationships over the years, but what I have learnt is where the line falls where I will not comprise.

One of those lines is, if I have to be kept a secret then that's not good enough.
While there is something quite delicious about a new relationship that's in its first faltering steps, an interaction that is full of 'for your eyes only' sort of emails, and intimate moments getting to know one another, there comes a point very quickly when other people in your life should know I at least exist, I'm not saying that a 5th date should be 'come and meet the boy's, but that the 'boys' wouldn't be surprised if they bumped into us out in public. No one else needs to know just what stage of a fledgling relationship we are at, but the nicest words to hear are "ah so you're xxx, he's been talking about you".

Of course the most obvious reason for keeping a relationship quiet, is because someone is not being truthful about their single status.
These days when almost everyone has a mobile, its very easy to just give that number, it means you're always contactable and sms's can be exchanged as and when the moment calls for them. But there is something trusting about giving out your home number, it means that no one at home will be picking up the phone who shouldn't know about you.