Reading the latest post by the Platypus and also revisiting the Hunter at the Great Wife Hunt I'm wondering, do men I know, secretly think this way but hide it really well. Perhaps they can only be as honest and open about their wants for a committed future with one woman and family when online.
But it gives me hope, that a man can actually not only think to himself but say out loud that
.............I can give my everything to another. I want the romance, and most of all: I just want that tomorrow to start today.
That gives me hope that yes there are possibly men out there who DO want to be with a woman and raise a family for real, ok so not with me but its a step in the right direction at least!
When I was in Australia recently I sat on the beach and watched as fathers brought their children to play in the surf, it really made my womb clench quite obviously. Just to see the bonding between man and child (ok so the hot Aussie bodies were nice too!) was something that quite literally brought a lump to my throat on more than one occasion.
I had a fantastic time when away, but would happily have given away that trip of parties and wild nights out to have been able to watch my husband take my child in the water, then for me to wrap that child in a towel and walk back from the beach as a family to OUR home.
To have a man in my life would be wonderful, but to have a man in my life who wanted to share the joy (and trials) of parenthood would just be a whole different story. I visit the sites of Jim and Random P to take in the JOY they have as fathers
I know that I have walked away from relationships with men after a few years because they were not the man as I wanted as the father of my children. Maybe that was foolish of me, but it was what I felt was right at the time. Many many times I have looked at a man and wondered, just how much would he enjoy having a family with me.
I've only once been at the stage in a relationship where the issue became something we needed to discuss and when he admitted that no, he didn't want children, ever. I finished our relationship, not because I wanted children then and there, I didn't but I also couldn't imagine ever being with a man who could say NO absolutely not, not at anytime in the future.
So to Platypus and Hunter I say, I wish you both well in your quest, may you find the happiness that you desire and deserve. And if you have a like minded friend, then perhaps you could send him my way.
2 comments:
Mia, I'm not really sure what to say. The idea that there are women out there who are yin to my yang is a comforting and warming thought...I wish you everything you desire and if I find someoen he'll be on a plane to HK.
Hunter, It always makes me happy to hear I'm in someones heart, thank you.
Platypus, Well, knowing that there are men out there who are not afraid and to hide their feelings is a comforting thought to me also.
RP, love the stories, even if they do make my womb clench on occasions, you and your wife were indeed lucky.
CB, Welcome, thank you for your first comment over here and I hope it wont be your last. As for 'them' being out there, well I still believe that they are and am keeping my eyes and heart open to possibilities. As for the right belly fitting in the small of my back - that just made me smile.
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